| Location | Coventry |
| Age | 28 years |
| Date of Birth | 13/10/1957 |
| Date of Death | 25/09/1986 |
| Visitors | 508 since 25/08/2008 |
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In loving memory of Derek Parkin who sadly left this earth on September 25th 1986, aged 28. Derek lived in Potters Green, Coventry. His mum and dad, John and May (both deceased), sisters Gwen and Andrea, brothers Tony, Andrew and Billy (deceased). To this day I do not know what made Derek end his own life and in this life I dont think I ever will. I have searched my mind but come up with no real answers. We were a couple for about 18 months and yes we did have our fall outs and disagreements but we were both young and were just a normal young couple. I would describe Derek as a private person, who liked to keep himself to himself. I have my good memories about him and yes I do love him. I loved him before it happened and I love him still, maybe I was just to stubborn to tell him, but now as I pray that he is back with his Heavenly Father, I hope he knows my true feelings. I will never know what went through his mind that awful day but I just pray that he has found peace and comfort with our Lord. Love and miss you Derek. Hope one day we will meet again and then I can at last tell you my true feelings. xx
Suicide - by Sharon Wheeler
If I could turn back the hands of time,
I would do it just for you.
Even if time stood still,
It’s something I would do.
Just one minute, just one second,
To say our last goodbyes.
I never got that chance at all,
That’s why these sore eyes cry.
Just to give you, one last hug,
And ask you to think again.
A problem shared, is a problem solved,
And can take away your pain.
If I could have helped you,
I would be the first in line,
I could have showed you so much love,
And say, things will turn out fine.
I wonder, would you have taken your life,
Or leaned on my shoulder to cry?
God, I wish, I could turn back the hands of time,
Instead of daily asking “Why?”
I know that you hit rock bottom,
But the way up was always there.
If “only” is a great big word,
Just like you knowing that we cared.
If ever we meet in heaven one day,
I will hold you real close to me,
And tell you that you broke many hearts,
The day that God set you free.
I love you more than ever,
And I just want to hold you tight,
For life was not as bad as it seems,
On that cold and windy night.
Why? - by Christina M Butz
Why did you chose to die?
You left no note with me and why?
You thought you were doing what was best and right.
Why, oh why, did you have to end the fight?
Your pain is something I will never understand.
You must have been so afraid to take this stand.
You left me with a title I am sad to attain.
Suicide Survivor, but who should I blame?
I know your decision was painful to make.
The thoughts in your head
Must have been unbearable to take.
Now that you're gone, I think of you a lot.
You couldn't have known the suffering this has brought.
I pray you are at peace my Angel, and I am in pain.
I count the minutes to Heaven and seeing you again.
Who's To Blame? - by Christine Ross
Who's to blame for suicide?
The question often heard.
Someone always points a finger
And they say such hurtful words.
They never do consider that
It's caused from a disease.
Depression and Bipolar
Are just a few of these.
Some die from being murdered.
Some die from accidents.
Some die from pneumonia,
But none of it makes sense.
Sometimes body parts wear out
Way before their time.
Some lose the cancer battle,
But it all seems so unkind.
No matter how they leave us
It never is their choice.
There's something deep within them
That has a bigger voice.
So please refuse to take the blame
For the THING that took your Friend.
Although others point their fingers.
They haven't walked your mile.
For My Loved Ones
I stood by your bed last night;
I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying you found it hard to sleep.
I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
'It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here.'
I was close to you at breakfast,
I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached to me.
I was with you at the shops today; your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I flew with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently landed on you; I smiled and said, 'it's me.'
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, 'I never went away.'
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say 'good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning.'
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll fly across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you,
there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...
then come home to be with me. (By Anon)
When Angels Came From Heaven
When angels came from heaven
And flew away with you
We were left heartbroken
Not knowing what to do
There was no warning signs
Just a pair of pure white wings
And now we miss you very much
And all the joy you used to bring
We feel an empty space inside
Its a place you used to be
And no one can replace you ever
Even though now your free
We keep asking the same question
Why did it have to be you
But theres never any answers
So what more can we do
We just hold on to your memorys
And keep that space open for you
And when we meet again some day
Our skys shall all turn blue
We miss you more each day that passes
As absence makes the heart grow stronger
And we shall love you forever more
No matter where you wander.
Copyright� Sharon Wheeler.
Happy Valentines Day
Hiya Derek.
Just popping by to say Happy Valentines Day to you.
Still miss and love you loads.
I had a beautiful dream about you babe and it has given me so much comfort.
God Bless you Derek.
Lots of love as always,
Elaine xxxx
Birthday October 13th
Hiya Sweetheart. Popped by to say Im remembering you today on this your birthday. Your always in my thoughts babe, just be nice to say it face to face to you. Never mind Derek, one day, God willing I will be able to tell you just how much I love you. I will pop by again soon Derek. Love you. From Elaine xxxx
Miss you so much Derek
Hello sweetheart. Elaine here. Well another year has gone by, cant believe its been 22 years, I still think of you so very very much Derek. I thought it was supposed to get easier, still feels the same for me, still love you just as much babe. Sorry I never put anything in the local paper but Im sure you wont mind, Im here instead. I remember so vividly you asking me to get engaged to you three weeks before you took your own life, it plays in my head like a record Derek. I gave my life to God in 2006 Derek and I so really hope that you spoke to our Lord. I want to be able to meet you one day Derek because I love you so so much. I will pray for you Derek and I truly hope you have found peace with our Lord. One more thing babe, I dreamt about you last night, maybe its reading too much into it but I like to think of it as my little sign from God. Please Father look after Derek and let us meet again in your timing. Going to go for now sweetheart, pop back soon. You are always in my thoughts and never far away. Love you and always will. Hugs and kisses, love from Elaine xxxx
SO SORRY........
DANIEL SWADDLES MAM .
Softly the leaves of memory fall,
Gently I gather and treasure them all,
Unseen, unheard, you are always near,
Still loved, still missed, so very dear.
No length of time can take away,
My thoughts of you from day to day,
Whatever else I fail to do,
I never fail to think of you.
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